Date: 28th to 30 October

Retreat Leader: Shan Tate

Requirements: Everyone is welcome

Cost: Generosity Model – Donation only (via the donation form at the bottom of the page; no suggested amount).

Format: on site

Start and Finish times: The course will start at 7:00pm on the 28th October and finishes at 1:00pm on the 30th October 

Accommodation: Shared and single rooms will be available at Land of Joy. Camping can be an option at certain times of year if you have your own tent but space is very limited. Beds are allocated based on individual or logistical needs.

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About the Course

Lama Yeshe said, Be wise. Treat yourself, your mind, sympathetically, with loving kindness. If you are gentle with yourself, you will become gentle with others.

Self care and self compassion help us develop our inner confidence. This in turn enables us to expand our capacity to reach out to others. We naturally have more to give. At the same time, we are not neglecting or bypassing our own practice of inner development though distracting ourselves, or kidding ourselves that we don’t have our own struggles and limitations. We are honest with ourselves in a way that acknowledges our experiences so we can face our vulnerability with courageous acceptance.

We counteract harsh self-judgement and recognise and nurture our basic goodness.  This very process softens and opens us to others.  Through applying kindness and understanding to our own difficulties and sorrows, we can approach other’s challenges and torments in a way that activates us to be less self-absorbed and more genuinely considerate and caring to them.

The process is a circular one. The Dalai Lama talks about being ‘wise selfish’. There is an increasing amount of research into the benefits of compassion towards others, in terms of our own health and wellbeing being nourished.  This in turn strengthens our own capacity to offer support to others.

Presentations, discussions and meditation techniques will be used as a basis for exploring ideas and understanding how they can improve our daily lives and those around us.

About the Teacher

Shan first met the Buddhist teachings in the mid 1970’s and has been involved in the development of a number of dharma organisations and groups in the UK. She is a Family and Systemic Psychotherapist and worked for many years in the NHS with young people with mental health difficulties and their families. She now works in private practice as psychotherapist and supervisor and offers consultations to organisational and professional groups. Shan leads Buddhist meditations and facilitates dharma discussions in a variety of settings.

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You may also like to make a regular contribution to the centre by becoming a Branch of Joy. This kind of support gifts us a steady and ongoing income, which in turn provides the confidence and means for us to continue to flourish for many years to come.

Thank you and may you be happy.

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