Death & Dying
‘Most modern societies do an excellent job of hiding away the reality of death. When on top of this we lead a busy life, we may not give much thought to death until we actually encounter it face to face. We then find ourselves overwhelmed and traumatized by the diagnosis of a terminal illness or the loss of someone close to us. We may also fear that thinking about death will make it happen or else take the joy out of living. But, in reality, when we actively think about death and prepare for it, we find more peace, happiness, and fulfilment in our lives and our fear of death disappears.’ [from FPMT’s Heart Advice for Death & Dying Course]
The resources on this page provide essential advice for the time of death and for making life meaningful, as well as practical ways for thinking about and preparing for one’s own and others’ deaths. This aims to build confidence in facing death as well as being able to help and support others before, during, and even after their death.
Videos
Lama Zopa Rinpoche’s Advice to a Person Who is Dying. Recorded by FPMT
Impermanence & Death with Ven Robina Courtin
Making Friends with Death by Ven Amy Miller – recorded by Ocean of Compassion (Gyalwa Gyatso) Buddhist Center
Books
Life, Death & After Death by Lama Yeshe
How to Face Death Without Fear by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
How to Enjoy Death: Preparing to Meet Life’s Final Challenge without Fear by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
Wholesome Fear: Transforming Your Anxiety About Impermanence and Death by Lama Zopa Rinpoche & Kathleen McDonald
Advice on Dying & Living a Better Life by The Dalai Lama
Death, Intermediate State & Rebirth in Tibetan Buddhism by Lati Rinpoche & Jeffrey Hopkins
Articles & Other Materials
The Death Process (multimedia) by Lama Yeshe, created by Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive
We Should Not Be Afraid of Death by Lama Yeshe
The Cycle of Death & Rebirth by Lama Yeshe
Powa: Transference of Consciousness at the Time of Death by Lama Yeshe
Remembering Death by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
Impermanence & Death by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
The Certainty of Death by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
How to Help Your Loved Ones Enjoy Death & Go Happily to Their Next Rebirth: A Handbook by Lama Zopa Rinpoche
Death & Rebirth (Transcriptions of the Discovering Buddhism module) by Nicolas Ribush
Analytical Meditation Guides and Forgiveness Process PDF by Ven Lozang Yönten
Designing Your Own Funeral PDF by Ven Lozang Yönten
Guided Meditations
Audio (recored at Land of Joy)
Video
Impermanence with Ven Lozang Yönten
Eight Stages of Death with Ven Lozang Yönten
Nine Point Death Meditation with Ven Lozang Yönten
Retreats & Courses at Land of Joy
(Audio recordings of Ven Mary’s course at Land of Joy)
How do you deal with the inevitability of death? Many ignore, suppress or develop a flippant unrealistic attitude towards death. In this way, we push our awareness of death to that of some distant event. How we deal with death is an expression of our wisdom, courage and compassion.
This retreat explored the buddhist approach to death, highlighting wisdom and the methods which lead to embracing and owning our own death through a combination of teaching, discussion, Q&A and meditations.
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Other Courses
This two day online course with Ven Lozang Yönten was hosted by Kunsang Yeshe Centre and later made available by Ven Yönten on her YouTube channel.
Please click here to access the course recordings and be sure to click ‘read more’ in the description under the videos to find the course materials Ven Yönten has so kindly shared.
What You Learn: How to overcome the fear of thinking and talking about death. Awareness of the reality of your own and others’ death helps you live life in a more meaningful way. Methods to help yourself and others face death peacefully and even joyfully.
Duration: Five sessions.
How to Participate: Find Heart Advice for Death and Dying as part of the Online Learning Center. Alternatively, check whether the course is offered at your closest FPMT center.
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(Module 5 of Discovering Buddhism Online)
In this module you will explore life, death and rebirth and the nature of mind. Learn to use the fear of death to overcome the fear of death. Discover how to use the certainty and imminence of death to enhance your quality of life.
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Buddhist Practices to Help Those Who are Dying or have died
Helping our loved ones at the time of death is the best service we can offer them, our greatest gift. Why? Because death is the most important time of life: it’s at death that the next rebirth is determined. – Lama Zopa Rinpoche
The Holy Name of Buddha Rinchen Tsugtor Chen – During the 2010 Light of the Path retreat, Lama Zopa Rinpoche advised that this verse is the very first thing to recite in a person or animal’s ear when they are dying or dead.
Eight Prayers to Benefit the Dead – A collection of common prayers recited by Gelug monasteries for those who have recently died.
Medicine Buddha Puja, the Wish-Fulfilling Jewel – A simple puja (set of prayers) that can be performed by anyone with faith in the Buddha
Additional practices suggested by Lama Zopa Rinpoche to benefit the dead
Aroma Charity for Spirits (Sur Offering)
Liberation Box – A collection of tools to facilitate a fortunate rebirth
Liberation Card for a Dying Person (Chinese, English, French, Spanish)
Mantras to place on the body of someone who is dying or has died
Ten powerful mantras for the time of death
Nyung Na: The Means of Achievement of the Eleven-Face Great Compassionate One